This message comes straight from Tip #57 in Career Gymnastics, and I believe it’s one of the most important truths for anyone trying to build a sustainable, long-term career. Because here's what happens—we work hard, we show up, we pour ourselves into our roles, and over time… our job becomes who we are. The company name becomes part of our identity.

The problem is, in a world that constantly pushes us to look outward for validation, it’s easy to start questioning that inner voice. You start thinking, Maybe they know better. Maybe I’m behind. Maybe I’m doing it wrong.

Not all advice is given just to help you. Some advice is actually part of a sales strategy. It’s crafted to sound empowering, but the real goal? To warm you up for the upsell.

On the surface, these bold moves might seem empowering. And let’s be clear—sometimes leaving a toxic environment or making a strategic jump is exactly what you need. But what’s missing from these catchy posts is the reality check:

Use this system to keep yourself grounded and clear, no matter how loud the noise around you gets.

Because the reality is simple: you can’t—and shouldn’t—absorb everything. So let’s stop trying. Instead, let’s be strategic. Let’s filter intentionally. And let’s give ourselves permission to only hold onto what genuinely moves us forward.

Scroll your feed for five minutes, and you’ll be told to quit your job, start a side hustle, post three times a day, meditate at 5 a.m., and negotiate your worth—or else.

One of my favorite songs of all time is The Gambler by Kenny Rogers. “You gotta know when to hold ‘em, know when to fold ‘em, know when to walk away, and know when to run.” That line? It applies just as much in the workplace as it does at the poker table.

But here’s the problem: gossip has a way of pulling you in, chewing you up, and spitting you out—fast.